A middle-aged female colleague at my workplace resigned and went home to be a stay-at-home mother. The reason is that her son's studies are at an important stage and her husband is too busy to go home. She doesn't like that she doesn't earn much money. She thought about it and decided to return to her family and serve her family as a full-time mother. Regarding her decision, benevolent people have different opinions and wise people have different opinions. They all agree that a family really needs a mistress to take care of it, otherwise life will be a mess. The voice of the opponents is that it is not easy for people to enter the workplace in middle age, and it is even harder to return to society in the future. Unless you have never planned to return to the workplace, you will be even more isolated from society.

Is it right or wrong for her to choose to be a stay-at-home mother in middle age? Will she regret it in the future? In this regard, I happened to read an article about stay-at-home mothers in Fan Deng's research, and I was deeply impressed when I read it. I have to mention one person at the beginning: President Zhang Guimei. She refused to deduct points from one student because the student became a stay-at-home mother. She said righteously: "Your family is in such a difficult situation, but we have provided for you until now, but you have become a full-time housewife." "I am most opposed to being a full-time housewife. Women must rely on their abilities, not the support of others."

Of course, there are also opponents who accuse Principal Zhang of discriminating against stay-at-home mothers. In this regard, Zhihu has a highly praised answer: "Stop scolding this teacher, this is really sitting on the principal's chair holding the heart of an old mother!" I am deeply impressed by this. After all, the parents of an ordinary family have to pay for a girl's college education since she was a child. Regardless, the dedication is huge. Parents are certainly less enthusiastic about their daughters finishing school. In the future, they will "work" for her husband's family so that her daughter can return to her family as soon as possible.

Away from society and away from the tempering of the social melting pot, you will feel that you are becoming less and less competitive and worthless, and you will be completely dependent on your husband financially. Is it right or wrong for her to choose to be a stay-at-home mother until she is middle-aged? Will she regret it in the future? If this person recognizes your contribution, congratulations, you have found the right person. If you don't recognize your contribution and don't care about every penny you take from him, it will be difficult at this time. In today's society, this situation occurs ruthlessly all the time.

A stay-at-home mom is fighting for the years she thought her family would contribute in exchange for the bleak decades ahead of her life. Is it worth it? I didn't see you. Many dissatisfied women live in limbo because they have less and less common language with their husbands and children. And all of this was caused by his original compromise. The compromise at that time could never bring him the life he wanted, so he would secretly regret it in his heart. But there is no regret medicine in this world. Every step in your life is important and your destiny gives you the price.

Even if you return to the workplace, you will find that the gap between you and your peers is getting wider and wider, and you will feel powerless if you want to catch up. Of course, there are also parents with strong risk awareness and foresight. When their daughter proposed to become a full-time housewife, they resolutely opposed it. Even the child's meager salary was used as a nanny, so that the child would never become a full-time housewife. But in the workplace, children become stronger. In this way, the daughter will gain not only the ability to make money, the improvement of her own abilities, harmony with the family, and the respect of her husband and children.

This far-sighted approach by parents actually coincides with Principal Zhang’s original intention of asking students not to be full-time housewives. After all, it is not easy for everyone in this society to understand what a stay-at-home wife has to do. Not everyone can understand the hard work of the entire wife and who is the dearest to them. So instead of spending a few years trying to solve immediate problems, it’s better to think long term. After these years, you will find that your efforts and long life are not worth mentioning at all. It’s clear at a glance that when it’s cooked, it’s light; when it’s cooked, it’s heavy.