It’s really hard for working mothers!

I recently watched a trending video on Weibo. The baby was only 40 days old. Both parents went to work, leaving the nanny and the baby alone. During this period, the mother missed her child. She glanced at the camera and found that the nanny was shaking the child violently, throwing it up hard, and slapping the child.

Every mother who has watched the video cannot bear it.

Anyone who has taken care of children knows that children should not be shaken. If the father coaxes the child, the mother will go crazy, let alone treat the child as a child like the nanny in the video. To be honest, she can wash the dishes with less force than she shakes the child.

The 40-day-old baby can’t stand up its head yet. It’s too soft to hold. If the baby is shaken the way the nanny does, the baby will definitely suffer from shaken baby syndrome.

The brain of such a large baby is not yet fully developed. If the baby is shaken suddenly, although there is no visible injury on the outside, there may be bleeding in the brain, causing the nerve connections in the brain to be broken, and the skull may also be injured.

The baby's father was a very calm man. He didn't touch the nanny and raised his finger, but directly called the police. Unfortunately, the punishment was not severe. The nanny was only detained for 15 days and fined 500 yuan. This is not enough to make up for one ten thousandth of the harm she caused to the baby.

Every family has its own difficulties in reciting sutras, and it was really difficult for this young couple to think about it. 40 days is equivalent to just confinement, and my mother hurriedly went to work.

She has a lot of time to rest before she breaks her bones after having a baby, so this job is very important to her. There is no elderly person at home to help, but if there is an elderly person at home, even if the elderly person is in poor health, has limited mobility, and cannot take care of the child, and is only responsible for supervising the nanny to take care of the child, the baby will not suffer this fate.

No mother is willing to leave her baby who cannot speak yet to a nanny alone. She must have had no choice but to take this step. As a result, the nanny took advantage of her.

What’s even more annoying is that the nanny claims to have taken care of many children. I really don’t know how many children she has taken care of.

Nowadays, the demand in the housekeeping market is huge. It used to be said that women could hold up half the sky, but now women have to hold up both halves of the sky. They have to take care of children and do housework inside, and they have to work as hard as men outside.

If any one of them is neglected, the sky will fall. But no half of the sky can fall. What nannies can do is help mothers take care of half of the day at home.

The cost of hiring a nanny has skyrocketed in recent years and has exceeded the wages of many white-collar workers.

According to the market situation in Shanghai, 10 years ago, you could hire a live-in nanny for 4,000 yuan. Now, you can get a live-in nanny for at least 6,000 to 7,000 yuan. She still doesn’t take care of children and is mainly responsible for cleaning and cooking. If you take care of a child, you will have to pay more depending on the age of the child.

Ten years ago, a confinement nanny earned about 8,000 yuan a month. Ten years later, it is normal for a better confinement nanny to earn between 10,000 and 20,000 yuan.

The amount of money charged for housekeeping services has skyrocketed and has never been lower than inflation. But has the quality of housekeeping staff improved in the past 10 years?

It should be said that there are indeed more and more high-end nannies. There are turtles who work as nannies, and there are people with master's degrees who work as nannies. The ceiling in the housekeeping industry is indeed getting higher and higher. For example, someone is looking for a nanny in the circle of friends, and the requirements are as follows:

After reading it, I only think of three words, and that is "I am not worthy".

On the other hand, the lower limit of the housekeeping industry is still the same.

Many people think that as long as a woman is a woman, has hands and feet, and can do housework, she can do housework. This results in a mixed bag of domestic workers, including all kinds of people.

Some nannies have unclean hands and feet and often take things from their owners. The host tolerated it to a certain extent and resigned her. She changed to another agency and continued to harm the next family. Shanghai is so big and there are so many agencies. If she just wants to change places, she really won't have to worry about finding a job.

Like the nanny in the video who shakes the baby, her face is covered with mosaics. The fine of 500 yuan is only her salary for one or two days. When she is released, she is a good person. If she changes to another agency, she will still say the same thing: I I have been taking care of children for more than ten years and have rich experience... (You have more experience in shaking children. You are more suitable for dry concrete mixing. You can shake them as much as you want, but you are not suitable for taking care of children.)

< p> The so-called housekeeping agencies are actually supported by these aunties. Therefore, they will not check the aunts’ working experience. If they can perform physical examinations on the aunts, they are considered responsible intermediaries.

The consequence is that employers find that it is really difficult to find a reliable housekeeping aunt! For aunties who do a slightly better job, the owner will not let them go at all, even if they are no longer needed. Word of mouth and referrals will make it easy to find another job in a matter of minutes.

I recall that when my daughter was more than 1 year old, I was also working. My mother had a bad waist and could not take care of the child by herself, so she had to find a live-in nanny to help. She said that she would take a break after I got off work at 6pm at home and would not work on weekends. It stands to reason that it is always safe if there are old people watching at home.

Not necessarily.

Let’s talk about those who worked for less than three days.

Before some aunts feed their babies complementary food, they take a taste of it with a spoon. My mother was shocked and said, why are you like this? People said that I was trying to test the temperature because I was afraid of scalding the child. After this aunt was fired, my mother specifically asked for her physical examination report.

There is an aunt who has the habit of taking naps. After putting her children to sleep, she also takes naps. She said she had been busy all day and was tired. Originally, my mother wanted to endure it, but she didn't care if the child woke up and made sure to sleep until midnight.

There are also various people with poor hygiene habits. They use a towel for wiping hands and a towel for washing face. They use a piece of gauze to wipe the baby from beginning to end. Holding a child is like carrying a chicken, the action is very rough.

Let’s talk about the problem that I discovered after working for a while.

I am particularly impressed by the two aunts.

There is an aunt from Shandong who is very talkative. While chatting, she talked about how she was very good at raising children, scientific parenting and so on. My mother trusts her a lot. But I found that every time she took care of the child, the child was very obedient and honest, doing whatever he was told without making any fuss, just like a different child.

The child is over 1 year old and can’t ask anything. There was no such thing as a camera at that time. My mother sometimes takes a nap at noon and doesn't keep an eye on her all the time.

On weekends, my aunt is usually not at home, so I take care of the children at home. I found that every time I mentioned aunt, my baby started to cry, and she could even clearly say the words "I don't want aunt".

After several visits, I insisted on changing people.

There is also Aunt Chongming, who looks clean and very diligent. Every afternoon she takes my daughter out for a walk. She was very industrious and didn't want to push the cart, so she just carried the child in a sling and went out.

My grandma came to my house once. She was very worried when we asked our aunt to take the baby out alone. She said: If you don’t know everything, how dare you leave your baby to others?

My mother said: Her ID card is still with the agency, and she is a local, so she will be fine.

My grandma was still worried and secretly followed behind to watch. Half an hour later, my grandma came back and said that this aunt was carrying the child on her back, picking up empty mineral water bottles all the way to the waste recycling station...

Well, I can find a part-time job as a housekeeper. . Auntie works really hard. We were worried that she would be too devoted to her part-time job and lose her child, so we finally fired her.

Judging from my personal experience, the quality of nannies varies greatly. Their profession is also special. Unlike ordinary colleagues or subordinates, they can keep a distance if they are unhappy with each other.

A nanny is an outsider who is deeply involved in the employer's life. Regardless of whether you trust her or not, you must accept the fact that she eats and lives with you and helps you take care of your children.

Because you have to help take care of the children, the cost of changing nannies is very high. It's okay for adults, but it's difficult for children to adapt to one caregiver after another, which will make the baby's sense of security very poor.

At the same time, their relationship with their employers is also very delicate. As far as I know, most employers are very polite to nannies. Employers in Shanghai never call them "nannies". They all call them "aunties".

In addition to the negotiated salary, employers also give extra red envelopes to my aunt when she goes back to her hometown to visit relatives during the holidays. I just hope that my aunt will appreciate my heart and be nice to her children. Don't give up your pick at every turn.

The nanny shaking a 40-day-old baby should be a wake-up call to the domestic industry.

As an intermediary, the aunt must be able to obtain the work records of each employer. Make sure she has no bad record such as theft or child abuse. Any nanny who abuses children will not only lose her nanny qualification forever, but will also be fined to the point of causing physical pain.

An aunt who was fired because of bad hygiene habits must receive training before she can work again.

As a mother, while giving trust to the aunt, you should also install monitoring at home to ensure the safety of the baby.

Only when the housekeeping industry becomes more standardized can working mothers work with peace of mind.

Nannies can be paid well, but they cannot be without high quality.