I'm tied down by my children, tied down by my work, and almost dismembered me.

If you want to write an article every day, you need to sit in front of the computer at night after the children go to bed.

I get up at 5 o'clock in the morning, then I wash and cook until 6 o'clock. I wait for my son to get up and hurry to go to work.

is the arrangement full?

full, no time for reading, thinking and socializing.

I can only listen to books. I listen to books for an hour every day on my way home, but actually I can't listen for an hour. I have to use this time to call my friends next to me ...

I'm so tired!

Being tired is definitely not normal. It must be something wrong with me. I'm just reflecting. What's the problem? It takes 3 hours to accompany my child every day. Can I arrange someone else to accompany her?

is it necessary to play with him personally? Can I arrange a daughter-in-law

then, I can save three hours.

the house is a mess. what should I do?

I cleaned myself for a long time, and the more I cleaned up, the more annoying I became. I called an aunt to come over and cleaned it. It was really clean. I told her: come and clean it every two days.

much better than the daughter-in-law, who complains every time she cleans.

so, I'm relieved again.

nobody takes care of the children?

when my parents came back, this problem was solved again, and even the problem of cooking was solved. I suddenly found out why I was so free. It's as if I'm staying in a hotel every day. I don't have to consider hygiene, cooking, or children. Occasionally, I'm idle and can accompany my son to the square for a walk.

My daughter-in-law doesn't agree with me. Why?

She believes that it is a parent's duty to bring up children.

I said, "What do you want, the process or the result?"? If it is a process, it can be made up by playing games with children on weekends. If it is a result, it can be completely replaced because our time can create other values. "

why do many people complain?

Because, your own labor is not taken seriously.

I have worked so hard to clean the floor, but my husband didn't comfort me when he came home. My wife thinks that cleaning the floor is the credit, but my husband thinks that all you do is to get a result: the floor is clean. Since you want this result, why not find an aunt to clean it up? Do you have to look capable?

which outstanding woman wipes the floor at home with a pout every day? Are you exhausted? I'm tired, and I deserve it!

Because the value of your labor is only equivalent to the value of a domestic aunt.

The wife complained again: housework should be done by both husband and wife and enjoy this romantic process ...

Since it is enjoyment, what are you complaining about?

if the couple want to enjoy romance, can they go mountain climbing? Can we travel? Can we go to eat western food? Does it have to be romantic to wipe the floor with a pout?

recently, I am as busy as a cat on hot bricks every day. can I complain?

why do I complain?

nothing more than sympathy.

but what if you gain sympathy? Let everyone pity me? Have come to my house to help with housework? You still want to express your condolences to me?

no use!

Because I am tired, I only reflect on what kind of labor is low-value and what kind of labor can be replaced. After such a glance, I find that everything can be replaced except thinking and decision.

I'm going home to get a certificate for my child this time. This certificate says it's easy to handle, and formal procedures can be handled, but it's not easy for me. Why? There is no formal procedure, and it belongs to unmarried pregnancy.

do you know any friends?

yes, but I don't want to beg him or owe anyone.

I found a friend who is in the same situation as me. He has a wide range of contacts and resources. I told her: Help me inquire about this certificate. I don't ask about the process, I don't ask about the channel, I just ask about the cost, that is, how much it costs to run this certificate. It must be reasonable and legal, and it must be a true certificate.

he helped me to run.

come back and tell me: 1, witness the money.

what is a sign of social civilization?

the division of labor is becoming more and more detailed.

can I run the card myself?

yes, you can. If you want to apply for a permit next to it, you should apply for a birth permit first, and then you can apply for a certificate. It's all together, and the time cost is at least 3 months. I can't afford to wait. The result of my running around is that I have become an expert in applying for a certificate, but it is useless to be an expert, because this certificate will be applied once in my life.

why do you have to make yourself an expert?

what I want is not the process, but the result.

If I run by myself, I can keep complaining, complaining about the government's procrastination, complaining about the complicated examination and approval, complaining that I am busy ...

Why are we tired?

Because you don't know whether you want the result or the process. In other words, you think you want the process of cleaning the floor, but what you want is the clean result of the floor.

why are women tired?

Because she insists on labeling the process as "love". Not only that, she also likes to kidnap others with "love", for example, "Husband, let's do housework together."

what do I mean? If you are very, very tired, it is not far from clicking. Normal life is slightly damped, but it is not big ... < P > Try asking yourself, are you really irreplaceable? Think of an extreme possibility. If you are paralyzed in bed now, what will change?

Is there really no one to do housework? Is the family really starving? Is the child really left unattended?

You find that you are dispensable, even if you are alive!

I am deeply reflecting on myself ...

Am I really working hard? Should we work hard?

I read a passage in a circle of friends yesterday, "If you were the boss now, would you be willing to hire yourself now?"

This passage really deserves everyone's deep thought .......

My daughter-in-law seems to have unlimited energy when she reads my article, and she has to argue with me. She asked me what my wife's value is.

I said, "My wife is my partner. We dine together and have children together. There is an indispensable concept in my partner, that is, you are very important to me."

she said, "of course, who tidied up the house? Who do you think slept with you? "

I said, "This is not your value, at least it is not the core value. If it is just for this, can I ask my aunt to clean it?" Can I find an 18-year-old girl? They can do better than you. Your value must be beyond these two points, and a woman must recognize this if she wants to live a charming life. "

She asked, "So housewives should die?"

I said, "housewives can also live charm, such as elegance, erudition and generosity."

are you easily replaced in a family? Will your man or your woman live better without you?

if so. Then it's your failure, because you play a cumbersome role.

the other day, I went shopping, and I teased an elder sister, who was at the counter of the computer. She was a little fat, but quite confident. She always thought that she was wronged to marry her husband, who worked as a sales supervisor in a real estate company and earned a good income.

I said, "You just bite off more than you can chew. Your husband is surrounded by beautiful young girls. What kind of women a man can attract determines his height. This sentence is also true for women. If no man likes you, it means that you have failed in life. You have no magnetism and can't attract any man. In fact, you can't attract your husband. My husband is with you, just to deal with you. "

It seems that no one has ever said that about her, but she is still surprised.

why?

Because, at present, it is the security guard in the mall who is chasing her ...

Han Hong, be fat. Seeing Han Hong on the stage, I was thinking, if she is a housewife, she should really be described as a "fat pig". What charm should we talk about? Men want to vomit when they see it. How can they be impulsive?

But look who Han Hong is in love with.

they are all the best.

why?

She has magnetism and energy field. Go and see her Weibo, who has millions of fans.

There are many scandals about Han Hong, and she seems to like to make some extreme remarks, but should we criticize these remarks?

not necessarily, because what we see may be an illusion, because Han Hong is too fat, and at best, we are blind and touch the elephant.

celebrities show us what they want us to see.

We seldom pursue truth and falsehood, one-sided or comprehensive, but we are too busy criticizing and seldom settle down to think about these issues.

people always like sublimation.

sensibility will overwhelm reason.

Yesterday, a reader sent me a WeChat, but I couldn't find an appreciation button for a long time. How can I appreciate it?

why don't I do circles and pay for reading?

because I don't think it's time yet. when will it arrive?

when do I think the benefits are appropriate?

At least when the number of WeChat fans exceeds 1,.

when will it be over 1,?

don't worry.

President Jiang told me that your article is your brand. The greater the brand effect, the more people will pay attention to it. Don't underestimate the hundreds of fans you have now. These hundreds of people are enough as your seed users.

in many things, haste makes waste! Be sure to slow down, take your time, and believe in the accumulated strength.

The reason why I don't choose to be a circle is that I don't want to bring myself too much psychological burden. But there will still be this burden. Every day, more or less, readers will send me red envelopes on WeChat, not much, just a few dollars. No more than 1 yuan.

The most common day is the Mid-Autumn Festival, surpassing 1 yuan. I'm sorry. I can't send a blessing and play dumb. Always want to give readers some feedback. What should we do?

If you want an address, send them some books. They have all been read, so I might as well share them with readers, which will just fill my psychological burden ~

The readers said again, Brother Chao, there is no other meaning to praise you for giving you money, that is, the words written for you are true, basically with little water, and there are a lot of valuable information, so I appreciate you. There is not much money, so I'll treat you to breakfast.

Occasionally, a reader asks, Brother Chao, where is it in Beijing?

I said, Fengtai district.

she said that she would visit you sometime.

I said, OK, Guanfan.

However, there are really few people who can come. Why? Afraid I'm a liar. After all, you will be wary when you meet for the first time. It is normal.

as I mentioned in my previous article, whoever you want to see? No matter how awesome it is, it's really easy. As long as you decide to start, you can see it tomorrow.

People always scare themselves sometimes, but people are denied by themselves and always set their own limits ~

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readers who have come to visit me so far are more loyal.

In the backstage of WeChat, several readers insist on leaving messages for me every day. Write a review, why leave a message? Because the comment function has not been enabled yet.

I replied to them seriously, and two of them had met before and came to play with me.

A reader left a message: "Chaoge's hospitality will definitely attract more people. I believe that more and more users will pay attention to you. It's great to be able to stick to your bottom line and not be eager for quick success. Don't worry, I will always pay attention. "

why are you so loyal?

because I really treat them with my heart, I really treat them as my relatives.

in fact, no one is stupid, and others will treat you the way you treat others.

the word "heart" seems simple, but it's actually too difficult.

One thing is beyond doubt. As long as you put your heart into it, others will definitely feel you. You are kind to a girl, even if you have never expressed it, the other person will definitely feel it.

Let's take replying to articles and messages every day as an example.

Although I said yesterday, "I haven't settled down to study these two days with my wife and children, and I can't write a good diary for the time being. I hope I can understand ~"

There are still many readers who leave messages to reply: it's still very good.

why?

because they feel my intention.

Nowadays, many writers think that people will read what they write casually. You should remember that no one is a fool. When what you write can't bring value to others, no one will pay attention to you no matter how you shout.

if you fool others, others will fool you.

when it is said that it has been subverted, it has been subverted.

it's not that you are not diligent enough, but that you don't take it seriously.

None of those writers is better than ours.

Just like when I write an article, I have to think over every paragraph. Before I publish it, I have to check the typos repeatedly, even the punctuation. This is' intention'.

Readers can feel me. "

as long as you really understand the" intention ",how can you not succeed?