Among the twelve beauties of Jinling in "Dream of Red Mansions", her fate is the only one. The one whose destiny is explained most clearly in the first eighty chapters of "Dream of Red Mansions" by Cao Xueqin, is revealed in the thirteenth chapter. The fragrance has disappeared and the jade has passed away, and he died of illness. But in fact, the mystery surrounding her death and life experience is really confusing. Today, Lihua thought to herself that from just one aspect, from Jia Mu's criteria for choosing a daughter-in-law, why did Jia Mu like this great-grandson's daughter-in-law so much? Maybe it can answer your friends' questions.
Qin Keqing’s father, Qin Ye, is just a small maintenance man in the Ministry of Industry. His direct staff is under the jurisdiction of Jia Zheng, a member of the Ministry of Industry, which is far different from the level of housekeeping. . And Qin Keqing is not his biological daughter, she is just an abandoned baby of unknown origin adopted by Qin Ye from the health care hall. A woman with such a miserable background and unknown origins should be despised in the prominent Jia family.
But in the eyes of Jia Mu, the supreme ruler of the Jia family, Qin Keqing is actually the most proud of his great-grandson's daughter-in-law. This marriage is difficult to match with the Qin family's background, and completely violates the purpose of a well-matched marriage under the feudal etiquette system. So why does Jia Mu praise her so much? Really questionable. The writer Mr. Liu Xinwu devoted himself to studying the Dream of Red Mansions and concluded that Qin Keqing was not an abandoned baby from the Yangshengtang, but the daughter of the deposed crown prince of Kangxi. Qin Ye took her home from the Yangshengtang after being assigned by the Jia family. Of course, he has some basis for saying this. According to Liu Xinwu's explanation, the Qin family has a distinguished status and is respected by everyone.
Lihua Xinyu believes that if we look at Jia Mu’s criteria for selecting a daughter-in-law and see why Jia Mu loves this great-grandson’s daughter-in-law, it is not because Qin Keqing is the daughter of Kangxi’s deposed prince. Jia's mother's criteria for choosing a daughter-in-law are not based on family hierarchy. In this regard, Jia's mother's consciousness is very advanced, much like our modern views.
In Chapter 29 of "A Dream of Red Mansions", there is a fragment about a Taoist priest named Zhang who proposed marriage to Baoyu in front of Jia Mu. Jia Mu said this: No matter how rich he is, as long as he looks good. Come and tell me if your son is worthy. Even if the family is poor, they can only help him with a few taels of silver. It's just that his appearance and personality are rare. From this passage, we basically know Jia Mu’s criteria for choosing a daughter-in-law. First, she must have a good appearance, and second, she must have a good temperament. With these two points, it is in line with Jia Mu's wishes. Even if the family is poorer, it doesn't matter. Qin Keqing fully meets Jia Mu's standards on these two points. Qin Keqing was born graceful and delicate, and behaved gently and peacefully, which meant that she was both beautiful and had a good temper. Of course my great-grandson's daughter-in-law, Jia Mu, likes her.
Jia Mu’s criteria for choosing a daughter-in-law are: first, she must have a good appearance; second, she must have a good temperament. In fact, this is also the bottom line for Jia Mu to choose her in-laws. Later, Jia She chose Sun Shaozu's marriage for his daughter Yingchun, and Jia's mother was very dissatisfied. It's not because the Sun family has no money or status, on the contrary, the Sun family is extremely prominent, even more prominent than the Jia family. Chapter 79 of "Dream of Red Mansions" says that the Sun family is rich in wealth and power. More importantly, the two families are family friends. Logically, Jia's mother should be very satisfied, but she is not very satisfied in her heart. She may not listen if she wants to stop her. The affairs of her children have their own destiny, and besides, it is his biological father's decision. It can be seen here that Jia Mu chooses her in-laws regardless of whether they are rich or poor, as long as they have good character and good character. Sun Shaozu's family follows the trend, and their character is very questionable. Of course Jia's mother is not satisfied.
Jia Mu’s views on marriage are like this, so it is not difficult to understand that Qin Keqing won praise from Jia Mu in the Jia Mansion. If the servants of the Jia family like Qin Keqing, it is because Jia's mother likes Qin Keqing and looks at her differently, but the expression of this emotion is not love.
The servants of the Jia family obviously like Qin Keqing. Chapter 13 of "Dream of Red Mansions" "Everyone in the family knew at that time that the older generation missed him for always being filial, the younger generation missed him for always being harmonious and close, the next generation missed him for always being kind, and the servants at home missed him. He has always been compassionate to the poor and cherished the humble, and his kindness to the old and loving the young has never failed to make him wail and cry bitterly. "So on and so forth. Duke Cao only had to write one sentence: "All the servants in the house were silent." It can be seen that Qin Keqing was praised by everyone in Jia's family, not because of her so-called "prominent princess" status, nor because of Jia's family. A mother's love lies in her own personality charm.
In this world, people who know how to be a good person will have good popularity regardless of their status. On the contrary, a person who doesn't know how to be a good person, no matter how high his status is. Popularity is also very poor.